I ask the question because I get told all the time by others in my life, just change your mindset. Just think about it in a different way. Just think that this will pass.
So across the board in articles I have read thus far, have in summary said there are a few common things to try. Not always easy, but with practice, as I say, we can shift our mindset from a doom and gloom attitude to a more forward thinking positive one.
As a recovering perfectionist I find myself thinking about the why I am thinking negatively at that moment. I recently took a job that took me outside my home and it was at first a bit of a pain. I mean when I said yes it was a month prior so when the day came for me to follow through I was all, “Omgawd, I don’t really want to do it, blah blah blah.”
I felt tired and have a project on the go, and I work for the school district so summers off. I have usually big plans for the summer as it is when I have the most time. Anyway, I was doing this for money and so it was a job.
I had to change my mindset. I was really finding it difficult to just think a different way. I started to think more in the lines of, well now I will have no distractions to work on my website and blog, and I can do some of that computer work I didn’t get to, and I can read that book I don’t take the time to read. I also told myself that this was a good test leaving the house with the boys, and for me as I do not leave overnight often, as well as, perhaps noticing what actual work I do do around the house. As there are different versions of mindset thinking. For example a fixed mindset verses growth mindset or the triangle of co-dependency, where you are in victim verses rescuer verses intimidator mindset.
Now the thing is, so many of us don’t naturally just think about the deeper part of communication. To really look beyond the science and have a belief system that helps us create our path moving forward is not an easy thing to do because it means we might have to do things that are different and that can be scary.
Understanding what mindset is and what OUR mindset is,
IS key to actually starting to practice changing it. ~read it again
CHANGE
I believe in forward thinking, being progressive, kind, compassionate. I believe the past helps shape who we are today. When the past has a negative connotation to it, is when we need to change our mindset. I believe we are all here to have purpose and everyone’s purpose is different. Yes, of course we can argue over all the despair in the world and what is the purpose of that. I agree that it is sad and that is why having a purposeful mindset fitting to my beliefs and my goals is what holds me together in my world right now.
So knowing your beliefs and what and how you express yourself will define your mindset. If in the past you had or were taught negative beliefs then knowing you can change your beliefs will in turn help you change your mindset.
OK easier said then you think.
I know I know. I get told this by my boys. The thing is when I feel something I feel it. Positive or negative. The idea is to not dwell in it if it is negative, and embrace it if it positive. Sometimes you have to just pick who you hang out with and if its no one, then its no one. Allow yourself the freedom to feel and then empower yourself with the freedom to be able to change it through thought and beliefs.
Once we realize that our mindset is how we think about our beliefs and it is how we share those thoughts,
if we change our thoughts and beliefs we can change our mindset. So my top practices currently to change mindset:
Prioritizing my personal development
This is key to progressive thinking. I mean the world is changing with or without you so you might as well join the ride and enjoy your piece of it. I sometimes think that life is like circles. You have to change how you view something. This changes your feeling towards it, which changes your thinking which changes your mindset. when we are happy we think happy things and behave in a happy manner, etc.
Setting Goals
I found that having a set of goals that are realistic to my way of life was key. In the past I would set goals that were to hard to achieve within my current lifestyle and therefore I was sabotaging myself without even realizing it. I also have to say that breaking them down, the goals I mean, into smaller achievable goals helps immensely with the accountability.
Meditate
OK you honestly need to try this is you don’t do it already. If you are new, it will or might feel weird and awkward at first. I go to the beach and take in the peace and serenity I feel there. This slows down our heart rate and brain waves to a frequency of calm.
I was at a staff party and I was told by many coworker that I seem to always be in a rush. Now i walk fast and talk fast, and soon realized that instead of it just thinking I had a ton of energy, I was giving off the vibe as though I was in a hurry. I did not want that. I know that the circumstances are that sometimes to be efficient one has to move quickly however, I strive now to learning how to be calmer more present.
This behavior comes from my past. My dad was always very intentional and intense when he wanted something done. Now I know from my own personal development that his behavior stemmed from his own past and his own upbringing however, it flowed over to me and even unconsciously I find I still am intense in my movements. so change,
Get in the Abundance Mindset mindset
I like to to retire when I am 60 so I need to think backwards. How much do I need when I am 60 in order to live and then work towards that. No point in trying to achieve something in an impossible way, rather knowing what you need and breaking it down so you can achieve it. Instead of thinking “OMG I am so in debt” all the time try thinking , “I am going to pay this debt off” and then adding, “I am going to pay this debt off in less than 3 years”, or whatever.
I do believe in thinking big and not settling. I also am a realistic person. This is why being grounded and having distinct goals is where one begins. Without them, you may not fulfill your dreams. Of course lets remember, this only works with people who want to fulfill their dreams.
I am not going to go to crazy with a list of things to do as you could google it and find out for yourself. I am sticking to the ones I have that are working for me right now. In the meantime, stay positive, have courage, and never give up!
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