Here we are. There is a global pandemic going on. People have lost jobs, people cannot find jobs, people do not want to work, anxiety is on the rise. Frustrations peaking! I really want to talk about frustration this week, but first the why.
Why do we get frustrated?
‘The feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something’
For everyone it is different. For me it is the commitment and finding time to do the things I really love.
The internet is filling up with continuous content. So much content I do not even know what some of it means. How to filter the good with the bad and know what is creditable and when one is making a mistake. How to know how much drives people crazy and what do they like if not engaging.
So, learn they say. Teach yourself with hard work. Are you willing to work 15 to 16 hours a day doing something you love? Just get out there. Hustle.
I mean come on! I am not even a lazy person and hearing all this makes me crazy.
I know that the new generations, Millennials and Gen Y and Z, are totally doing this and maximizing the Internet. I just do not understand some of the content that is out there. The videos and memes. And, how the heck, do you all get it done?
I am a Gen X and so I, according to google, carry the characteristics of,
- Being independent
- Work-life balance
- Flexible and informal
- Technologically adept…. Hahahahaha that is so funny
Let us talk about these for just a second. The steps are coming…
Being Independent
Yes, that I am. Ever since I left my marriage and decided that it was healthier for me to be on my own with the boys, I have been learning about myself, and learning how to be better. I can make decisions that are mine instead of discussing a decision and then getting blamed for something if it goes wrong. I for sure know what I want. Being Independent and feeling Independent though, are different. I just need to find that path, and so let us get on it.
Work-life Balance
Now hmmm, No, honestly, I do not have this yet. I mean what does that even mean? I am happy. I think I could work harder. I still procrastinate. Hence why I started the blog. Need the outlet, hoping for more interaction at some point. I know that with my hustle and showing up every day I will succeed. Patience and determination will prevail. I know what my vision is.
Flexible and informal
I put on that I am flexible. However, this does cause me anxiety and sometimes to be passive aggressive. I am working on saying no and being more assertive. Informal for sure. Open and self aware.
Technology adeptness.
I know how to type, and I know how to read. So, learning would be easy with these skills, right?
The whole social media platforms have me baffled. I mean, I use Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. If I do it correctly, however, is still unclear.
Being born before technology really took off has had its challenges. However now, I am noticing the challenges getting even greater. I am getting so frustrated. I have excuses.
And this is what I want to touch on.
Frustration
I think and have said in past posts that we are our beliefs. We are in control of what we think which controls how we feel.
So why then does Frustration just creep in. I keep saying to myself, I just am frustrated and then just want to explode. As soon as I figured out how to get through one frustration and have vented, I am frustrated again. Sometimes, I would just yell out loud or I would just break down and cry
I know that I need to keep practicing the steps. Here they are again
- Try and stay flexible and informal
- Do not be so hard on yourself
- Stay positive and be around positive people
- Always try
- Be consistent and
- Do not give up
- Have a plan
- Remember that mistakes help you grow
- Seek help when you need it
- Excuses get you no where
In my post about anxiety, I talk about what things I do to keep it in check and how it makes my body feel. I keep wanting to blame my bed my age, my being too busy and whatever other excuse comes up. I mean I am not saying do not feel, I am saying I need to stop and confront my challenges and have a talk with myself.
Negative Emotions likes company. When I wake up in a negative way, I find myself spreading the darned negativity like a virus. I love it when my boys are immune to it, however, at times it has made them grumpy and then the day does not go well.
Listening to positive talks on different podcasts and seeing it around me helps bring me back to the present. I usually feel so much better and my emotions get back on track. Spreading positive messages to others around you, learning and teaching as you go, can be inspiring to others and can help create happiness all around. Smiles create smiles.
So, in the big picture, I want to stay consistent, I want to inspire, I need to make time, follow my own planning. I thank you for joining me on this journey and hopefully you can relate to my stories and try some of my strategies. Let me know what you like and do not like please. I think I can handle some feedback. I am still working on the website, and it will be updated soon. Tweet me Twitter, Message me on Instagram, Like and Follow Facebook and can leave a comment there also.
In the meantime, stay real, stay positive, and always show up.